Finding Forty

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I’m Jane Elliott—wife, teacher, writer, mother, former foster parent, and a woman learning to navigate the beautiful and brutal in-between. Raised in chaos and shaped by the question, “What would my 40-year-old self say?”—I write to make sense of the past and to carve gentleness into the present. This blog is part reflection, part becoming—a space for grief, grace, and growth. One birthday, one breath, one brave word at a time.
Not Montessori. Not Minimalist. Just Tired.

Not Montessori. Not Minimalist. Just Tired.

We all sleep in one room right now. 🤍

Toddler got upgraded to a toddler bed.
Baby got upgraded from the mini crib to a full crib.

Is it traditional? Nope.

But neither is sprinting through the house half asleep while tiny people roam the halls at 2am.

Families have slept communally for most of human history. Modern American “every child alone in a themed room” culture is actually the newer thing. Somewhere along the way, I stopped trying to force what looked right and started paying attention to what actually worked for our family.

And honestly? This setup reduces dysregulation, wandering, nighttime overwhelm, and probably everyone’s cortisol levels too. 😂

This season of parenting may not photograph like a magazine spread, but everyone is safe. Everyone is close. Everyone sleeps better.

And after enough survival-mode nights, that starts to feel a whole lot like success. 🤍

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